Mr. Happy or Mr. Right

Many times conversation turn into argument when we have divergent view points. In such time Mr. Right in us takes up the charge to prove our view point as the correct and righteous on the subject. Any sentence which can win over others view point bring an elated feeling while anytime we feel the argument made by other person is stronger, either it bring aggression and mind racing even faster to find better argument. During such conversation, are we really happy and peaceful, answer perhaps in not that affirmative. We might have win the arguments with the force of logic but what it has done to other person over whom we feel psychological or social victory whether expressed or latent in mind. It has done exactly what we feel when we feel lost in making our point, perhaps sad, frustrated and even grumbling in mind and looking for chance to prove our point back. Even if you won the argument, does it really make you happy. Being or proving Mr Right comes at the cost of many lost opportunities to be Mr Happy. We might have also made a loss at relationship or friendship as well.

Now this is not to suggest that when sometime we need to put corrective directions in conversation, but know that there is better way to do it and that is being Mr. happy then taking the call of Mr. Right. So next time you get stuck in arguments see who wins Mr. happy or Mr. Right. If you got both you got a precious skill in life & just applaud for Self :-)

All glory to Gurudev!

Dinesh

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